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Meet the Mama Q&A with Melissah
Mama to Zoe, Brooklyn & Phoenix

Happy Monday!

Want to know a scary fact? There are now only 36 sleeps till Christmas - I can't believe it!!!

Today we chat with Melissah, Mama to Zoe, Brooklyn & Phoenix. 

I was lucky enough to meet with Melissah when her beautiful business was referred to me, and she created a stunning piece of art with my Mum's handwriting - it's currently under the Christmas tree!

Melissah runs @littleideasproject which makes the most incredible artworks from handwritten notes! Not to divert from our Q&A but I just have to share with you the piece she made for my Mum.


Stunning right?! Ok, let's get to know Melissah! 
Tell us a little about you and your family. 
I am a wife to my hubby of 10yrs (we've been together since we were 18, we actually dated in Year 9 before I broke his heart - true story - he obviously forgave me 😂) and I am mum to three kiddos; Zoe (7), Brooklyn (5) and Phoenix (1). 

Aww, young love ha! You'll need to tell me that story one day!
Can you share with us your birth story? Is there anything you would change or do differently if you could re-do it?
I got so lucky with all three births and truly grateful for it because I know first hand how quickly things can change in the birthing suite.
Zoe and Phoenix both wanted to come a little too early (at 30 and 33 weeks) but thankfully due to a very stubborn cervix, special drugs and bed rest they stayed in. They were so comfy I was induced!
All three in fact were induced, and for all three my waters never broke and I just couldn't dilate past 4cm without any assistance. Labour did get quicker with each child, but only because the amazing midwives recognised similarities with what happened with Zoe's labour, so each time they knew exactly how to get things moving.
Looking back there is nothing I would change at all. I did think that perhaps I would try my best not to have the epi with Phoenix, not because I have an issue with it, but I was so close to having him at 33 weeks (NICU ward booked an all) that I was mentally ready to push him out unassisted this time. The midwife recommended I did, it was as if she knew what was ahead, and thankfully I did. Not only did it take 2 midwives to break my waters, my placenta was stuck! The only reason they got it all out was because I couldn't feel a thing. So I saved myself a trip to surgery that night!



Incredible, the midwives you had sound amazing and you all worked together as a team. That's beautiful. I really loved mine too, it's sad when you think you'll never see them again!
I mentioned above a little about your work and family life, tell us a little more!
I am juggling work and homelife! But I enjoy the juggle. It keeps me busy (sometimes too busy) but I am a bit like my Dad. I need to be doing something, teaching someone, working on a project otherwise my mind gets the better of me. I am getting better with age though, I feel like Phoenix has taught me to chill a little.

I agree 100% on this, I always need to be doing something or planning something - currently working on Charli's 1st birthday ha!
What would be your biggest advice for someone who is about to have a baby?
Don't go in with expectations. There is nothing that can really prepare you for birth and newborn life because it is the opposite to what you imagine in your head. I personally found all the books, magazines and apps overwhelming. It stopped me from listening to my own intuition and put this pressure on having to do certain things that perhaps the baby just didn't want or need.



Yes - this! Although I wish I had practiced breathing a little more, I didn't bother with a birth plan and just let it happen. I actually felt more calm this way!
What are the must haves for your hospital bag? What did you wish you’d packed?
I forgot a brush for the first time with Phoenix ... and he was the only one who had hair but for me the must haves were;

For Bub
Dummy for baby
Nothing else was needed because the hospital had everything and if you avoid bringing clothes for baby you will thank your future self as it is less washing when you get home!

For Mama
High-wasted undies are a must (x2 for each day - I used to layer these because I bled so heavy and felt better protected)
I wore tights to keep everything contained but I also didn't tear for any of the kids so I don't know if this would be so comfy if you had stitches
Maternity singlets: it saves having both your boobies out

Agreed on the less is more for the hospital. I packed so many bags and Charli wore nothing but a hospital singlet and gown - made it easy to change her too! Our hospital only supplied 10 nappies then you had to use your own!
What’s the best item you purchased for your cherubs?
$10 white noise gadget from Baby Bunting

Best hack for everyday life with little cherubs?
White noise! We used it to block out crying babies in the hospital, blockout the other kids at home, blockout any noise! We still use it now with Phoenix and used it with all three kids.



Love this! We used it also until recently, but it is such an easy tool to use to settle a bub!
Describe your baby/babies in a single sentence
Zoe: Sweetest girl with a heart of gold.
Brooklyn: Loves his mumma! LOL
Phoenix: My wild child who keeps me on my toes.

Your cherubs are the cutest!!!
What are some of challenges you’ve faced since becoming a mum?
Dealing with mother's guilt. It is so easy to fall into this trap. I don't know why we think we can't do something for us. Or why we have been conditioned to think this way. I still have it some days, mostly about work, but then I remind myself that I am a better mum when I am working because I have given myself some time away from the kids which means that when I am with them - they totally have me.

So true, I couldn't agree more. Especially for Mama's who want to return to work sooner, the struggle and guilt can be real!
What has been the hardest thing about being a mum?
Making time for yourself. Even now, I know I haven't got the balance right. And it is not about being selfish - 15mins of pilates out of 24 hours is not being selfish, but we need to learn to look after ourselves so that we can be the best version of ourselves.



I got my nails done the other day, the first time since lockdown and I felt so guilty! I kept telling myself that it was silly, but it's something I enjoy doing so it makes me a happier Mama!
What has been the best thing about becoming a mum?
To know I have created these three amazing humans. It's such a miracle of life and I am so grateful I have been blessed with them.

What's the best advice you could give someone about to become a new mum?
Be kind to yourself. This mum thing is the toughest gig you will ever sign up for, but equally the most rewarding. It is why we keep getting up each day right?!

And the reason why, as soon as we go through all the pain to bring bub into the world, we are ready to do it all over again - and forget all the pain - ha!
How have you changed as a person since baby/babies arrived?
I am hands down more adaptable. I know that things can change at the drop of a hat and you just need to roll with it and find another solution.

Thank you so much for the chat Melissah, for being so open and honest. It's been wonderful getting to know you better, and you've shared some great thoughts for Mama's out there!
If you are still searching for a thoughtful gift idea, I thoroughly recommend reaching out to Melissah at @littleideasproject, with Christmas orders closing the 26th of November!

Have a beautiful week!
Renee
xx

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